OPINION: The women who don't celebrate Mother's Day
At the weekend I spent some time with a friend who is a single mother.
She's been a single mom since her son was born six years ago, and has never seemed to have any kind of issue with it.
Yesterday, when I wished her a happy Mother's Day, she told me she didn't really celebrate the occasion with herself in mind, and while acknowledging that the day was a special one for her own mother, she didn't consider herself as a mother only.
She explained that she and her sister, who is also a single mom, had decided a while ago to only celebrate Father's Day, because they play the role of both parents in their children's lives.
It was interesting to me, because at first I didn't really get it and thought it to be a little dramatic.
Then again, I'm not a parent. And I cannot pretend to understand motherhood in its entirety at all.
Later in the day, when I had spent some time with the family as a whole, I began to understand the sentiment.
The two sisters decided to have a celebration for their own mother, whom they say has helped them raise their children, and then on Father's Day next month they'll celebrate their own dual parenthood, on a day their children may need them more.
Suddenly it made sense.
Mother's Day is a lovely occasion to celebrate all mothers, especially those who come in the form of mentors, guardians, aunts, sisters, family friends, and the like.
In this day and age, there are very different concepts of what it means to be a family, where roles are not necessarily what society expects them to be before.
I felt very proud, spending time with these two single moms yesterday, who seemed content with their decision not to celebrate themselves, but to focus on what they believe would be a more important and significant celebration later.
They told me they help one another to keep going, and assist in parenting one another's children, to raise kids who will one day themselves become fathers.
So, to the single moms who didn't celebrate Mother's Day yesterday, to the moms who are not really moms, but are… and to the moms who celebrated the occasion and were made to feel special and loved, I salute you.
You restore my faith in parenting, and your hard work hasn't gone unnoticed.
Tamsin Wort is an online producer for Eyewitness News , follow her on Twitter: @TamsinShawn.
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